Blaque Indigo Speaks Her Truth

I don't know how alot of people feel about this video, but I'm in agreement with it. At least some parts of it. First let me start off with what I agree with: As a black woman, I feel like it is critical to let a black man be a MAN. Let him rule his castle. I think it's very necessary. The world is beating him up enough ... black men don't need to be boxing in the ring ((against the world)) and in their corner too ((at home)). I have to be clear though ... I'm talking about a strong, black man who isn't trying to leech off of his woman. A man that is providing and protecting his family. That's who this message is about, not the dead-beats who are just looking for hand out.

Letting a man be the head <- which is what GOD made him to be, is the only way for our family units to be strong. Trust that he will place your needs first when he makes the decisions for the household, but let him be the one to make the decisions. Know that he will do what is best for his family. Once again let me just say that I'm talking about a man who communicates with his wife and lets her express freely how she feels and what her needs are, and then takes that into consideration before making decisions. I'm not talking about a dictator.

Now let's talk about what I don't agree with: It was because of the feminist movement that laws were made to protect wives from being abused and sexually assaulted by their husbands, convict child molesters, and convict rapist. I also don't think that black women are sole reason that black marriage is becoming a thing of the past.

We may not need a man to achieve the things we want personally, but we do need a man to achieve what is necessary to build strong foundations in the black family, to uplift our communities and restore the the values of family into our culture.

I will say this ... I think that one of the real problems is that we sometimes as black women, don't know how to let our black men be strong black men. The simple, sad, truth is that most of us haven't seen the type of black family unit that Blaque Indigo is talking about. We don't know how to go about creating a strong, black, both parent reared family structure, because we didn't have it. As quite as it's kept, in most cases ... the type of family environment that we grow up in is the exactly same family setting that we create. WE sometimes make bad choices in men. WE fall in love with brotha's who aren't capable of handling the responsibility of being the head of a household. But even that isn't totally their fault ladies. Most of these men were raised by single mothers.

I know somebody out there is like, 'Well what does that have to do with anything?' The answer is this: Only a man can teach a boy to be man. Just like we were taught to be nurturers and homemakers from an early age, by taking care of our younger family members and cooking and cleaning around our parent(s)'s house. Young boys have to be taught how to provide and protect his family in only the way that a MAN can. WE can't do it, because GOD didn't make us the same. As much as there maybe those who don't want to admit, there is a problem in our black community. Blaque Indigo may not have a view point shared by the masses, but at least she has gotten people to open up dialogue about the situation.